The Work of Loving Your Husband and Children

"Then they (the older woman, wise and mature) can TRAIN the younger women to love their husbands and children... Titus 2:4

Wonder why the word "TRAIN" is in that scripture? There are many areas of this one verse that could be explored, however the one I want to discuss is the word "TRAIN". Aren't we just born with an inate ability to love?..Love our parents, love siblings, love our husbands and our children? Well, yes and no! We all have the ability and desire to love, however we were also born with a selfish pride that can prohibit us from showing that love appropriately.

We, in fact, need to be "TRAINED" to love our husbands and even our children. Where can one be "TRAINED" for that? It comes from reading the word. Passages like Philippians 2 which tells us treat others as more important than ourselves...having the same love and mind...being in one accord. Ephesians which tells us to submit to our husbands and our husbands are to love us like Jesus loves the church.

Ladies, are you afraid or unwilling to "submit" to your husbands? If so, you may need to ask God to forgive you for pride in your heart. Gentlemen, do you love your wife like Jesus loves the church? When you love like that, it is a lot easier for your wife to submit to you as the spiritual leader, in love and respect.

The Bible is the best place for training on loving your husband/wife and children. Another place to find this is through the fellow believers in your church family, a mentor of sorts. Wise moms and dads with a good marital relationship can help guide you on the path to positive family fulfillment.

Bible studies can be very instrumental in teaching also. So many other avenues to humbly, learn to accept instruction from a Titus 2 woman, the older woman who has wisdom unlike anything one could imagine.

The first things I have learned that have been benificial to our family is that...my children are sinners..."the heart is deceitful and wicked above all things". Once I realized that I needed not to teach them to lie or hit their siblings it was clear that the natural desire is SIN!! And action needed to be taken, biblically! When I chose to finally submit to my husband we had an amazing relationship. Not only did I accept being submissive, but he also showed respect, love and compassion for me as a woman and as his wife.

Submission isn't necessarily a bad thing. It frees you for one, from making all the descisions and carrying out all the discipline. It also allows you to see what a strong, wise man, God blessed you with, that at one time was thought to be a little weak and selfish.

Please feel free to comment if you have any questions, comments or concerns. I don't claim to be an expert. I am still in training...I just want to share with you what others have shared with me!!!